Ok, my big brother is going to a camp for 18 months! That's a year and a half! I won't see him until he's 17! I don't want him to go, but he does. There's nothing I can do to change his mind, I just have to cope with it. This is really distressing to me, not even when he moved away from me did I go without seeing him for that long, we spent a month together every summer. Any tips to help me with this? I'm sorry I've just always been really close to my bro. I guess I'm having a really bad day today!


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~Tomorrow~

When my bro left for college, let's say I bawled. But what happened is that we learned to keep in touch by e-mails, IMing, and writing letters.

Yeah, I've talked to him about communication, except he doesn't know anything about the camp -.- He said he might call, but he's kind of.. rebellious? He's not sure if they have computers and e-mail, but that may not be true.

Thx,
~Tomorrow~

An 18-month camp? That's crazy!

My brother's going off to college in 2 years, which is not to far away, but not too close either. However, he's going to Germany in January for 6 months, so it's a training for me when he goes to college (even though I go to college 2 years after him; we're 2 years apart).

The camp is for.. boys who need some help. As I said, my brother is kind of rebellious, he recently stole $127 out of our aunt's purse. He's also a pyromaniac, and he likes to pour his cologne on his hand and set it on fire.

He also wants to be in the military, so I guess the camp can prepare me for that.

We're three years apart, but he's probably not going to college, but I probably will. SO...

Thx for the help,
~Tomorrow~

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well i guess that if ur brother wants 2 go to this camp then u should be happy for him. dont make ur brother not do something that he is happy about. i know that ur sad that he is leaving . the same thing happened to me only i dont have a brother so it wasnt about my brother. LOL but yea it can be sad at first but he might be able to call u everyday and talk to u online if he can.

I know, I want him to go to this camp, because its what he needs. But why does it have to be for so darn long? I guess I'll get over it soon enough, but I at least want to sneak out of our rooms at night together at least once!


~Tomorrow~

Awwww :(
I'm sure they'll let him talk to his family sometimes... I think you'll get used to it, it might be hard though. If you want to talk, I'm here :D

~Queen~
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Thanks queen.

I just read the paper on it, only to calls a month, and only parents and grandparents can call.


-.-, I just try to comfort myself with the fact that it will help him in the end.

Tomorrow

My little bro went to kid prison for a year and a month . He's out now. so i know what your going though

Aww, Tomorrow.
I don't have a brother, but I have three cousins who are boys. I wish I could be close to them like you are with your brother.
Does the camp allow computers? If so, you can email him (or IM). Or if you and your bro can buy a video camera for the computers (when I bought it, it cost 100$, but I think the price has gone done more)
That is what I did when a loved one moved away
~Chaelle

Thanks jsmall and Chaelle. If they allow computers I'll get him an e-mail. I think we can write each other, so if he gets accepted I'll make sure to do that.

aww sorry for you..

Hey, I know how you feel. I wasn't able to see my sister for 4 years because of college. She had a job at a restuarant and never had time to visit.

~ Cute ~

Write letters to him. E-mail him if you can. Call him if you can. If they have computers you could play VMK with him.
I am sorry that your brother is going for 18 months. You can pull through! Believe in yourself!


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~Ataarii :santa8: :santa8:

I'll be sure to follow your advice to the best of my abilities! Thanks!


~Tomorrow~:snow_cool:

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Bumpity bump bump!

Aww Tomorrow it will be ok... Just call him everyday and talk to him on e-mail if you can :) He will be back before you know it.

*Ultrakiki*

Well this isn't my brother but my mom ( i do have a brother but we are 5 years apart) Well anyway, my mom had to go live in korea for a year for her job! I bawled when she left and she got to come home for a month in the summer and when she had to leave after the month i bawled again, but we kept in touch through emails, pictures, and web cam. So i'm sure you'll find someway to keep in touch with him.
Just stay strong! I know how it feels to not want to let someone leave for a long time!

Tommorow~

What i did when my BFF went away to a summer camp(know it isnt as long as 18 months, but w/e) i made sure she gave me the address so i could mail her, so make sure you have the address of the camp. And if he can only do two calls to parents and grandparents, ask your parents to let you see the phone for a minute and at least say hi and that you love him and miss him. That is my advice, if i think of anything else I will post. And if you can send letters, make sure he has a camera bc then he can take pictures of him and send them to you and u can take pics of you can send them to him. You could also put a picture of you and him and write a letter to him and put it in his bag so when he gets there he will see that u will miss him ALOT!! and that way he knows u care. Believe and you'll make it through this. And then at your house u can keep a picture of him on your end table and then at school put a pic of him in your binder or in your locker(if u have one) then it may feel like he is w/ u at ALL times. And dont worry, you will not be the only one in your family that misses them.

and as queen said, ppl on VMK&&VMKF are here if ya need 'em!!

AdventureFishie(on vmk)

Thanks so much, I really appreciate it!

i totally feel bad for u!! thats sad but maybe a little space will help.You'll make it through its almost like when my dad had to leave for military stuff. i got over it.but i broke down once and i had to call him.Just make sure u count it down on the calendar
~if u ever want to talk i check my messages AT LEAST 3 times a week or more so feel free to talk:)
-Good luck, Keys

aww im sorry he has too go but if you want (and he cares) tell him everyone here at VMKF will miss him. im here too talk too

I so wish my brother would go off to an 18 month camp... LOL. Sorry me and my brother were never really close...


But If you have a laptop or something it'll help. And maybe he'll be able to write letters. Calling and everything! But as long as he's happy and you know he's safe right?

I suppose your all right, this is what he wants; this is what he gets. He'll be okay, its me im worried about really.