I don't mind it when I get invitations from people on my friends list to come see them, or to check out a room, or things along these lines. But it is getting increasingly irritating when these messages just say
come here

Starting today, I will be replying with why?

If you are going to get me out of what I'm doing, you better be giving me a good reason. When I send mail inviting people to my room, I will usually say something like If you're not in the middle of something, I wanted to let you know that the Submarine Races are opening. This doesn't take that long to type, is more polite, and gives all the information the reader needs to take a course of action.

This is true for any form of online (or offline, I guess) communication - it doesn't do you any good if you're not actually... you know... communicating!

Here here! I agree, the lack of manners is horrible. I do not follow anyone who goes come here like I'm some pet! I followed one guy once and he wanted me to dance on his table! :mad: I left immediately and took him off my friends list. I also do not add anyone to my firend list I don't recognize or have talked to. I get too many requests and then they never say anything. I do not trade with anyone who has not asked politely either. What ever happened to plz, ty, and yw. They don't even have to be typed out.

Oh...and there's not even a capital letter and a period to finish the "sentence." I've had that policy for a long time Prisoner. It starts to bug, you know? If people don't have enough time to tell you what they need you for I don't think I have enough time to spend in their room.

If you've ever recieved an invite from me, you'd probably see what I'm talking about. I give you the game I'm starting, and a "thank you" for coming by. I mean, that's all I'm asking from others. Usually I'm in the middle of a rocking conversation with other friends when I get "come." I'm not coming, when I don't know what ya'll need me to come for!

i have been doing that too i mean people are always saying to invite people. i say no cause that is so annoying!
Me as well!

I get at least 5 a day now. I usually just delete them and ignore it or if it is someone I know really well I will go there, but usually not.

I notice this a lot. I consider it very rude. Especially when there are people in my room that I am talking with! I will ONLY go if someone tells me in the message what they want or why they need me, then I will send them a note back before I go saying I won't stay long because I am entertaining.

I totally agree! It is BEYOND rude when people just send "come" or "follow me" or "come to my room". I ask why, but half the time they never reply, lol. Anyway, I'm still working on finding a format I like, but here's an example of what I used to put(I'm working on coming up with something better and more polite):
Hi! You're invited to a game of Falling Furniture! Please come and please invite friends.

I know that some people don't like it when they are asked to invite people, but I used please, meaning that you don't have to. And many times, when I have sent the above message, people have come and invited their friends along, too! I guess all it really takes is 'please', lol.
Well, I'm working on making it sound better, but I haven't invited anyone to anything for quite some time, so I guess I don't have to worry about that right now. I'm thinking about using this format though:

Hello ^_^ How are you? If you're not busy at the moment, and if you'd like to come, you're invited to a game of Falling Furniture! I'd be happy if you came ^_^ I hope to see you there.

How does that sound? Is it polite enough? I don't want to sound like the people that annoy me, so I'd really like to know if that sounds okay to use.... :cat1:

Hello ^_^ How are you? If you're not busy at the moment, and if you'd like to come, you're invited to a game of Falling Furniture! I'd be happy if you came ^_^ I hope to see you there.

Honestly that sounds wonderful! I'd immediately come to your game if I was was just sitting around...and telling people to come on and play with me!

We're all just saying...it bugs just a little bit to be in the middle of something. And someone says "come here plz" like there isn't enough time to type out "please," tell you why it's important to come, and forgets to use a wonderful tool of our language...puncutation.

How does that sound? Is it polite enough? I don't want to sound like the people that annoy me, so I'd really like to know if that sounds okay to use.... :cat1:

I think it sounds fine. Its short, but more than two words. It is articulate. It is polite. It tells me what will happen when I get there. I even think your original message was great.

Honestly that sounds wonderful! I'd immediately come to your game if I was was just sitting around...and telling people to come on and play with me!

We're all just saying...it bugs just a little bit to be in the middle of something. And someone says "come here plz" like there isn't enough time to type out "please," tell you why it's important to come, and forgets to use a wonderful tool of our language...puncutation.

Thanks! I really appreciate that, I really do!
I know, I just figured I would ask, since we were on the topic of asking people to come. That kind of thing bugs me, too, so I'm trying not to sound like an idiot. I think I may have even gotten a message that just said "come" once. I wonder why everyone has gotten so lazy all of a sudden... Oh, wait, it's not sudden, it's just my generation. I rarely see kids nowadays that actually take the time to type anything in a well-thought-out manner...

I think it sounds fine. Its short, but more than two words. It is articulate. It is polite. It tells me what will happen when I get there. I even think your original message was great.

Thanks! I appreciate feedback on stuff, especially if it's positive. ;)

I know I'm overusing the word 'appreciate', but I really appreciate you two saying that about my invitation formats! Thank you both for the feedback! :cat1:

I've posted my feelings about this once before, but since it still happens, I'll join the group rant.

It is no longer just the messages that set me off in tantrums, but the frequency. If you ask once and get no reply or a simple "no thanks, I'm busy right now," do not message me six more times in ten minutes with the same message! I am not coming to whatever room you are in, drop it and move on.

It's always the same "friends" sending this invitation. I've taken to removing them from my list first if I need room. I'd rather have someone who I rarely speak to, but enjoy messaging, than someone who sends me invitations every day.

I've posted my feelings about this once before, but since it still happens, I'll join the group rant.

It is no longer just the messages that set me off in tantrums, but the frequency. If you ask once and get no reply or a simple "no thanks, I'm busy right now," do not message me six more times in ten minutes with the same message! I am not coming to whatever room you are in, drop it and move on.

It's always the same "friends" sending this invitation. I've taken to removing them from my list first if I need room. I'd rather have someone who I rarely speak to, but enjoy messaging, than someone who sends me invitations every day.


Moi aussi. I have this all the time! Same person, day after day "come here" "Plz" "i need you here"

arg. NO, you don't! :) And it's never for anything. I gave up going weeks ago,.

Off-topic, but sort-of related: How do you deal with friend requests?

I'm not talking about the drive-by friend request by the person who never talked to you. I mean, the person who you joked with for a minute or two, and then you see a friend request.

It was almost easier before when I had the friend list bug, and could honestly say "It's full, sorry." I know some people say it's full when it's not, but I can't do that. Maybe I should just accept randomly until it IS full, and then... yuck... don't really like that either

I don't know. I'd like to not have my list out of hand, to know the people in my list, and to know them as actual friends.

On the other hand, I've been on the other side and been "removed" by "celebrities" (OK I confess, it was a VMK; I only had 2 on my list, now 1; and no "developers" -- I don't hobnob much with the high and mighty ;) ). Intellectually, I totally understand, because we weren't buddies or anything, but on the other hand felt a tiny bit hurt that I got weeded out. And I'd like to avoid doing that to anyone else.

(In case you're wondering why in the world I posted in this thread, it's because I've recently experienced an acquaintance / friend request / polite come to my room invite, when I didn't really want to leave the room I was in. Apologies if that person is here -- this is a general issue, not specific to our encounter. )

It was almost easier before when I had the friend list bug, and could honestly say "It's full, sorry." I know some people say it's full when it's not, but I can't do that. Maybe I should just accept randomly until it IS full, and then... yuck... don't really like that either.My friends list has actually been full for as long as I can remember (and no, I'm not trying to imply that I am friendlier than anyone else!). Several people on my list are just friendly acquaintances who have stopped by my rooms and seemed pleasant enough, while others are superfriends. Every few days, I try to go through my list and free up some spots; the most fair way I can think of doing this is to start with the people who have been away from VMK the longest. I always try to keep a few spots open for when I run into someone that I want to add; however, I get probably 50 friends requests a day. If I've told any of you, "sorry, my list is full" please know that I am being honest. Personally, I am a bit offended when someone that I just met (or still haven't met) replies, "then delete someone and add me." I probably should take this with a grain of salt, but the presumption that this stranger standing before me intends to be a better friend to me than an existing person on my list just rubs me the wrong way. Like others have posted, I will tend to drop a person from the list if they spam me with too many "come here now" requests. However, I will usually draw a line by warning someone to quit spamming me before actually deleting them...that way, it gives them the choice of whether or not to get the boot and I don't feel so bad. ;)

BTW, here's a time-saving friends-list tip that I haven't seen anyone else post yet: I discovered this the other night while cleaning out my list (or trying to after VMK closed and I was still logged in...unfortunately, the changes don't save). You know how when you scroll down your list and then click on a name, it auto-scrolls back up to the beginning of the list (though the name stays selected)? Well, the easiest way to get around this is just to pre-select a name at the top of your list before you begin scrolling. Once any name is selected, the list no longer auto-jumps back to the top when a selection is made. Hope you find this to be as helpful as I do! :)

i get that alot also, its annoying

Thanks MrGenie -- good advice.

And the anti-scrollback tip is great -- I've been doing that for a while, but also don't remember ever seeing anyone post it. Of course, nobody will ever think to look for that tip in this "Come here now!" thread.

See, I managed to hijack a thread AND make a moderator keep it off track! Yay me! ;)